One of the hardest things for people to do is say no, whether it’s out of guilt, having feelings of obligation, wanting to make career moves, or needing to be a people pleaser. Over the years, I’ve learned that making myself feel light and clear-minded means I need to practice the art of saying “no”. No to people that don’t matter, no to work that I don’t feel like I should sacrifice my time for, and no to BS. I’ve come up with a simple list to help you slow down today, and to learn to say “yes” to yourself instead.
- Focus on being mindful with your body
Sometimes, we forget to take a step back and acknowledge the state of our physical and mental health. We need to ask ourselves, “Do I feel stressed out?” Or maybe, “Is the stress manifesting itself on my body?” I know for myself, when my face starts breaking out, it’s because I’m not taking care of my body: I’m not drinking enough water, I’m not releasing my anxiety in healthy ways, or I’m not getting enough sleep.
Take a step back and take a look at how you look in the mirror. If your health isn’t your main priority, it’s time to figure out how to make it yours.
2. Unwind before you start and/or end your day
I know I’m not the type of person to get up an hour or two before work. However, I cherish the hours to relax right before bedtime. I love to read on my Kindle Paperwhite right before I fall asleep (sometimes with a libation 😉 ).
Find what you love to do to start or end your day. It can be meditation, reading (like me), or having a drink with a bubble bath. Note: I think all three suggestions are wonderful. You’ll feel better knowing you spent some time just “doing you”.
3. Find your outlet
It might be difficult to find your outlet if you’re used to spending a lot of time working and commuting; I get that. You feel like you don’t even have the energy to have hobbies besides mindlessly online shopping in the dark from the glow of your smart phone. However, this is important for mental health reasons. By finding a way to release your stress and anxiety, you remove some of the burden that you’re carrying. Once it’s released, then you might discover one of your true passions.
Mine is working on small home improvement projects. Once I figure out what project I want to work on, I create a plan to tackle it. I enjoy the process, the creativity that it sometimes involves, and seeing the outcome.
Do you already incorporate one or all of these tips into your daily life?